Trust the process

Trust the process.

Trust in Gods plan.

Trust in taking things one step at a time.

These are going to be the words to help get me through these next 6-8 months.

Today, April 13, starts that journey of my first surgery in this process, yes first, meaning there’s still more to come. Yup you read that right.

Today I’m getting surgery to heal a fracture in my right foot and get it reconstructed. It’s the first of possibly more down the road.

But before we keep traveling down that highway, I need to take you back a little to August of this past summer, where foot pain in my right foot sidelined me. An X ray showed that the way my foot was shaped was causing a lot of issues and pain, and the doctor at the time thought rehab and training my feet to work correctly would help alleviate some of those problems. Pain would come and go and nothing seemed to give me lasting relief. After three visits to this one foot doctor over the course of 6 months, I asked for another referral to get a second opinion. I went to another foot and ankle specialist who finally told me that I had a big old fracture in the middle of my foot (navicular bone to be technical for you geeks out there 😝) that was missed in previous X rays from August. She also confirmed that the way my foot was shaped, that a reconstruction would make the most sense due to the injuries I’ve experienced since I was a kid as well as provide my foot with the best possibility of preventing any potential future injuries that would have been caused by the shape.

(Cue flashback scene. A foot doctor I went too when I was in 9th grade told my parents and I that I should get foot reconstruction surgery at that time due to my extremely high arched feet or I wouldn’t make it out of high school athletics because of the amount of pain and injuries it would cause me, but my parents and I said no. I think looking back we just didn’t realize how impactful the foot can be on the body. So the doctor prescribed me orthotics and said good luck. As I know now, orthotics arent and weren’t a cure all. They were a crutch or rather a bandaid of what was wrong about my feet. I still ending up playing sports at a very high level despite going through multiple sprained ankles and foot pain throughout my high school and college baseball career. (Ask any trainer how much tape I went through just from taping my ankles in those 4 college years. Every practice. Every game. 😂) I started trying to work on my feet these last two years when I researched on different platforms how the foot and ankle should move and function. It did help. Mine however were still limited. I think all the hiking and trail running I built up to was simply too much for my feet to handle. But thats another story for another time. End flashback).

Get it? “Flash”back. Lol.

Ok back to the original program.

When this new fracture was all confirmed to me in early March, I thought I only was going to need surgery on this one foot. But that same week out of nowhere my left foot started swelling up and hurting too. Definitely overcompensation I thought. When I got the X-ray and catscan done on my left foot and had it analyzed it turned out the same fracture and issues I have in my right foot are present in my left. Same navicular fracture. Same pain in and around my ankle. (Talk about luck right? 😂🤦🏻‍♂️) Except the doctor did say my arch isn’t as high in my left foot so I may not need the full reconstruction there. (I guess that’s a bright spot right🤔).

So what does this mean? It means after completing surgery to heal the stress fracture and re construction of my right foot, which isn’t guaranteed that it will heal by the way 🤦🏻‍♂️ (why I’m trusting God and putting it in his hands) I have to pray and hope that it does in fact heal, then rehab it to get it strong enough to walk again. We’re talking 8+ weeks of being in a boot and putting no weight on it. Once I start rehab, the plan is for it to support my body just enough so that then I could come right back to then get surgery on my left foot. (Yay! 😒 This is assuming everything with my right foot goes to plan, heals, and the strength progresses for me to do this. But like I said, trust the process. 🙏.)

Now to put that special final cherry on top of this glorious surgery sundae, during that same week back in March, I also sprained my right shoulder out of nowhere causing inflammation, tendinitis and muscle weakness limiting the use of my shoulder. (I wish I was joking but nah bro this is really my life right now.)

So ALSO during this time, I have to somehow rest and heal my shoulder to hope and pray that it won’t need surgery sometime down the road. (Like God I love you but, couldn’t I just have one injury?! The lower body wasn’t enough you had to take my shoulder too 😭).

See. Michael Scott gets it. Okay okay, that’s it from the negative train I promise.

On that day in March where I found out my shoulder was badly sprained AND I needed multiple surgeries on BOTH of my feet, I legit broke down. I couldn’t make it out of the parking garage without crying my eyes out for half an hour. I then got home and just let it all out some more. I completely let my emotions take over me that day. For me, I needed to really feel them to let me process what is actually happening. Doing this and letting my emotions do it’s part, allowed my mindset to finally shift. (Cue music, I can see clearlyyyy now the rain is gone 🎶). Okay I’m glad you didn’t hear me sing there. But you get the vibe I’m going for. Cool.

For real though. I was now able to look at this from a new perspective of gratitude and start thinking of all the positives that were happening and still present in my life, no matter how difficult or hard it may be to see, our challenges just require us to “look harder”, right Rafiki? 🦁.

This is me looking.

I have a great doctor who’s going to do her magic to fix my feet. I have health insurance that will be able to pay for it. (Fingers crossed it’s for all of it 🤞). I have enough sick time to be able to take time away from teaching to fully recover. I have great people in my corner of chiros, PT’s, and massage therapists to help with my recovery and healing. I have amazing, caring friends and my twin bro who will be there for support. I have food, shelter, clean water, and fresh food. I have a bed, electricity, heat, and internet. (Although it’s not the fastest, 😜 kidding mom.) And to top it off, I have awesome parents who have allowed me to come back home to not only save money for my own future home, but to provide me with the care needed to help fully recover. The list can keep going but I hope you get the gist.

This is still not going to be easy. Not in the least bit. My mental strength is going to be tested, by a LOT. This is going to be a HUGE challenge. I may fall at times, hopefully not literally cus that would be a problem 😂 But the growth and strength that this challenge is going to ultimately provide me with is the fuel that is going to help me stay in a state of faith and gratitude.

I just have to take things day by day, trust God’s timing,

and TRUST THE PROCESS.

So why am I writing this to share?

I’m hoping in writing about my obstacles ahead will help those who are struggling with any challenges in their life right now. I want other people to remember to take things day by day. That they’re not alone. And for them not to be afraid to admit if they’re struggling. That’s one that’s been important for me to understand. I don’t have to do this alone. And neither do you.

We’re a team.

Like the ducks.

& Ducks Fly together. 😝

You know I had to get one last movie reference in there.

As always, sending peace love and healing. 🙏✌️❤️

-Drob

Take this time to reflect!

“Freedom is instantaneous the moment we accept things as they are” – Karen Maezen Miller

I know I know, just what you need, another self-help type blog post. But before you click the x and go back to your daily social media scrolling, take a couple minutes and hear me out.

Trust me, I get it. There are TONS of articles and blog posts being sent out about health, fitness, diet, nutrition, immune systems, business plans, courses you can take, you name it. What they all have in common unfortunately is this conception that because you have all this “time” being quarantined, you “should” take advantage and be “productive”. Notice I put time, should, and productive in quotation marks. That’s because those three words are all relevant to what each particular person is going through. Productive for one person might mean having a clean house and dinner ready by 5 pm, while for others may be just simply getting out of bed by noon and taking a shower. (We’ve all been there). Constantly seeing and reading these posts can have a negative impact on our mental health and psyche. We WANT to be productive, but we’re also just trying to survive. I get that.

Here’s where we can start to shift this mindset.

What if I told you that you can be productive without actually doing anything at all?

You would think that’s a trick right? There has to be some type of catch. NOPE. No trick, (treats optional 🎃 ), just facts. Or words. One word actually. That word is embrace. Yes, really EMBRACE this quarantine. The world has slowed down, dramatically. Events are cancelled, weddings are postponed, schools are online, restaurants are take-out only, gyms are closed, the list goes on. While this is not great for our economy, it IS great for us. We are finally given this opportunity to really SLOW down and REFLECT on our current lives.

But D-rob, how do I embrace the quarantine?

By first ACCEPTING it. You need to accept the current situation for what it is. It’s not going anywhere. No matter what our leaders are saying, it seems that the virus will not fully go away until we get a vaccine, which can take up to a full year. I know when people hear that time frame, they start to worry and get anxious about what that will look like. Try not to think that far ahead. Accept that time frame. Your anxiety and thoughts will not change that.

Okay, so I’ve started to embrace this, now what?

Awesome question. Once you accept and start to embrace this, you’ve already won half the battle. Now you can look inward. Really look inward. Slowing down naturally allows us to reflect on our life. This is where you can start to ask yourself some important questions. Notice I just said ASK. Not answer. You don’t have to answer anything that you are not ready for. By simply asking yourself these questions, you will trigger your subconscious to actively start answering these questions without you thinking about it. I like to call this process “marinating”. Just let those questions marinate for a while. Your answers will come to you when they are ready.

I want to reflect and ask myself the right questions, but I’m afraid I won’t know what to ask. What are some good questions to ask myself?

This process can scare people away because we don’t know the correct questions to ask. And for each person the questions will be noticeably different. Here are three general questions to get your ball rolling. (Physical Education teacher reference 🏀).

1) Are you happy with your current _____?

Simple, but effective. Are you actually happy? Happy with your job? Your relationship? Friends? Health? Weight? Whatever the topic is can apply. Happiness is something that gets overlooked. We get comfortable with our current situation and are often blinded by that level of comfort. However, comfort is not always happiness. Ask yourself that question with each topic and let those marinate for a while. No rush to answer. Remember, you now have all this “time”.

2) If you can change anything in your life, what would that be?

Change scares us. Just seeing that question probably made you cringe. That’s normal. Hopefully for you, the weight of that question is lifted somewhat because you do not need to come up with an answer. Just ask the question. That’s it. Simple.

3) What is your DREAM ______?

Same concept as question number 1. Fill in the blank with your life, relationship, job, health. Many times, we lose track of what our dreams are, or simply become off-course. This question jumpstarts the process to get back on track. Your subconscious is filled with your inner most dreams and desires. It’s time to wake them back up.

How do I ask these questions? Do I read them aloud? Write them down? What works best?

Each person will have a different approach. What I have found that works best is writing them down with a pen and paper, like in a journal or notepad. For some people writing it in their phone works best. For others, repeating the questions aloud helps them. Find what works for you. The key is being relaxed when asking these questions. Right before you go to sleep is often the time when you are most relaxed. Use that to ask yourself these questions. As you sleep, your brain is doing ALL the work for you. Answers will come. (Just like that father who appeared in a baseball diamond in the middle of a Iowa cornfield 🤔⚾️🌽).

I hope this post serves to help you in this reflective process. Reflecting doesn’t have to be this big scary thing. We naturally are reflective creatures, the trick is quieting the noise around us. And in this time, that is the hardest part.

Be patient with this process, and be patient with yourself.

Peace and love,

D-rob ✌️🧘🏻‍♂️

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Summer break is over, now what?! (Tips to help make teaching, and life, more enjoyable).

I don’t mean to sound dramatic, actually yes I do, but Summer is over. Well, not officially. Summer BREAK is over. Yes. The break that teachers and students get from the last day of school in June to the last week in August. (A much-NEEDED break let me tell you). However, starting tomorrow at 8:00 a.m. that break is over with, and many teachers like myself, start the 2019-2020 school year.

Here is one question I will be continually asking myself as I prepare to embark on another school year adventure. (I called it an adventure purposely 🧘🏻‍♂️). Even if you are not a teacher, you can use this question yourself whenever you feel stressed or lacking motivation with your job or in your life.

What’s my why?

This is a question I am going to put on my desk and remind myself daily. There is one sole reason I became a teacher, and that is because I love to help people, and for many other teachers I bet the answer is similar. Last year was THE most stressful and most challenging school year I’ve had to date. (I am starting my 7th year teaching and 9th in the district). And it really can be traced to one simple thing, I forgot my “why”. My why is the rewarding feeling I get from the positive relationships I form with all of my students. My why is the joy I receive when students shout and wave and give me daps (a form of greeting). My why is the satisfaction I get when students come back after finishing middle school and tell me how much they missed my class. My why’s are not difficult answers. There are loads more. I want to see them learn, grow, and ultimately become compassionate, well rounded adults that are happy with themselves and put forth great energy into the world to make the world a better place. My why is to change the current trajectory of the world and planet. (Our earth is getting worse if you haven’t noticed, have you seen or heard about the Amazon fires? Or the amount of plastic and garbage in our Oceans? But those topics are for another time). My mission this year is not to forget that. No matter what my bosses or colleagues or anyone says or does, I will not forget my why’s.

There is a big IF with that question. And with teachers, that “if” is stress. With any profession its stress really. And overtime if stress builds up then our physical bodies won’t be able to mentally respond to asking the “What’s our why?” question. It won’t be motivating for us. So here is where the important part lies. You have to put yourself first. 🤯 Yup, that’s it. (Mind blowing right). How do you do that you ask? By asking more questions. (Duhhh 😝). What makes you feel alive? What brings you happiness? What brings you peace? Answer those questions and bring them with you into your work day. Don’t say you will TRY to do those things, try implies a doubt that you are going to fail. Say you WILL and CAN do those things. For me, its simply being more present during my lunch. This means enjoying my food. Not talking to anyone or checking social media. (or taking pictures of my healthy lunch. I mean it I promise 😂). It means scheduling 5-10 minutes of my lunch/plan time to meditating. It means bringing plants and salt lamps to put in my office and desk to make it more zen and peaceful. It means being more conscious and aware of shielding and protecting my sacred energy with other colleagues and my students. It means being more aware of what I’m communicating and how I am communicating to staff and students. It means letting my inner child out and ENJOYING my time teaching Physical Education. (You know actually having fun. Not like in Remember the Titans when Petey says during orientation, “Zero fun, sir”. Always have to hit you with a movie reference). It doesn’t have to be complicated. But for some reason, we as humans complicate it. We do things backwards, actually. Instead of using work as a means to LIVE LIFE, we value and prioritize work as our life. That’s not how it should be. Life should be fun. And work should be fun as well. Shame on the system for the convincing us otherwise.

If teaching, or whatever job you have, or your general life isn’t bringing you satisfaction and joy, then ask yourself those questions, ask yourself “What’s your why”, and accept whatever answers come your way.

I promise that in the process, you will learn and bring positive change to not only your work, but to your entire life. And that is the main goal.

Good luck to all of my educators, counselors, support staff, security, and school staff that will be taking on the 2019-2020 school year tomorrow. You got this. And if not, scroll back up and re-read.

As always, thank you for reading.

Peace and love,

D-rob 😎🤙✌️❤️